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Our Fat-shaming Society: They Don’t Give a Shit About Your Health

For the past three weeks I have not been allowed to go to work (it’s a very long and stupid story; the gist of it is I show up to work every morning and get sent home). Now, the school year (I work in a school cafeteria) ends this Friday but ever since all of this started I’ve been stressed out, depressed and pretty despondent. Which results in me eating more and exercising less. I can feel my body reacting negatively to this; my back and sciatic nerve are aching and my breath becomes labored easier. My job was something very active and helped me maintain a somewhat active lifestyle; I got lots of exercise at work. Now that that’s gone I have to motivate myself to exercise. Today I did that; I got up, did stretches, went on a power-walk, and rode the exercise bike for about ten minutes. These are all good things; I know that exercise is good for my body and my health and I love my body and want to treat it well.

What I really want to talk about is the sense of mild panic I experience when doing any kind of exercise outside, in the open, in view of people.  It’s especially frustrating to me, since I’ve never really struggled too much with loving and accepting myself and not giving a shit what others think, to be experiencing these feelings. Even if nothing happens, when I see a car go by my mind runs wild with all the things that person may or may not be thinking about the fat girl on the side of the road. Why do I experience these thoughts? Because we live in a society that routinely shames fat people, regardless of what the fat person is doing. It doesn’t matter if they’re eating or working out, we’re going to make fun of them.

We’ve all seen or heard the jokes about a fat person in a gym, making a fool of themselves among the more fit people, simply by being there and being fat. It’s just HI-LARIOUS to see a fat person trying to work out. I guess the idea is that they’re so pathetic because they’ve let themselves get so fucking fat and now they’re trying to fix it; stupid fatty, if you’d have worked out all along this wouldn’t have happened. And that idea goes completely against the #1 fat-shaming bullshit excuse: We’re just worried about your health. If all the people who say they’re concerned for the health of fat people actually meant it there wouldn’t be such an atmosphere of shame and disdain that stops so many overweight people from going to the gym or to the doctor. If all the people who posited this supposed concern actually felt it, it would foster a more welcoming, safe atmosphere. I don’t feel secure just walking around the roads of the neighborhood I’ve lived in for near 9 years. I can’t imagine how some others may feel at the idea of going into a gym.

I want to treat my body well. I don’t really like exercising to begin with (outside of dancing and swimming); I do it because it’s good for my body and my health. I want to be able to exercise with freedom and without having to worry about what some asshole might think of me while I do it. I can dance in my room, I can ride the bike in the sun room, I can find a more private space of land (like the woods maybe or a barren field or some other abandoned space) to walk around in. But why the fuck should I have to hide the fact that I’m trying to be healthy?

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For only $19.95, you can get 20% more self-esteem!

So today, I got a friend request on Facebook. I wasn’t sure if I knew this person or not because I know a lot of people on the interwebz and I never know if someone might send me a friend request and I also have a bad memory sometimes. So I accepted it just to see and I immediately got this message about how she saw that I was active on the Happy Bodies blog and all this shit and was eager to ‘share something with me and my group’:

Hey Ashley,

The Body Magic is manufactured by a company called Ardyss International. It is medical grade body reshaper, designed by an orthopedic surgeon and medical engineer. The garment corrects the posture, supports the spine, lifts the breasts, cinches the waist, plumps the rump, and creates an instant hourglass figure – no dieting, no pills, no surgery. The garment even causes the internal organs to return to their proper places internally! (I have MRI images that proved this to me!)

As for me personally – I got married last November and some how, some way gained 25 pounds! (my husband is such a spoiler) While my husband loves me regardless, and so do I, I wasn’t really pleased with how I suddenly looked in my clothes. After putting on this garment however, INSTANTLY, my body was transformed and I had an amazing figure. I had an instant boost to my self esteem and confidence, not that I suffered from low self esteem and confidence before, because I’ve always love me!

I am absolutley [sic] excited about this product because of the difference it has made in my life, and wanted to share it with your group. It has truly made a difference in my life physically, mentally, and emotionally. I’ve included a few photos for your review. Please contact me if I can tell you more about this amazing garment and the nutritional products Ardyss International offers.

Most Sincerely and Feelin’ Like Ten Million,

Kimberly T. Hooker
http://www.tenmilliondollaryou.com
Independant [sic] Distributor for Arydss International
757 696 1448

Seriously? Seriously, dude? Other than that whole fucking message being the complete fucking opposite of what Happy Bodies is all about this kind of supposed all-encompassing representation of ‘how women feel about their bodies’ just makes me really angry. Let’s take it bit by bit, shall we?

The Body Magic is manufactured by a company called Ardyss International. It is medical grade body reshaper, designed by an orthopedic surgeon and medical engineer. The garment corrects the posture, supports the spine, lifts the breasts, cinches the waist, plumps the rump, and creates an instant hourglass figure – no dieting, no pills, no surgery. The garment even causes the internal organs to return to their proper places internally! (I have MRI images that proved this to me!)

Because that’s what women want! We don’t give a shit about health or exercise or anything like that! It’s all about that ‘instant hourglass figure’, that perfect fucking shape, with the perky tits and cinched waist and of course, the juicy, plump butt. And okay, the garment returns organs to their proper place….lady, organs are already in their proper place. I mean, that’s typically how the body works. It usually comes with the organs positioned correctly. What I read when I see that is a non-horrifying way of saying, “It moves your organs around!” Why am I strongly reminded of a constricting female undergarment of yesteryear that served this very purpose?

As for me personally – I got married last November and some how, some way gained 25 pounds! (my husband is such a spoiler) While my husband loves me regardless, and so do I, I wasn’t really pleased with how I suddenly looked in my clothes. After putting on this garment however, INSTANTLY, my body was transformed and I had an amazing figure. I had an instant boost to my self esteem and confidence, not that I suffered from low self esteem and confidence before, because I’ve always love me!

Where to fucking start with this? First of all, the little comment about how much the snooky-pie of a husband spoils her isn’t cute or charming or endearing; it’s gross. If this is true, take responsibility for your own damn body; it’s YOURS. And I feel like this is mildly contradictory: “It boosted my self-esteem, even though I don’t have low self-esteem and didn’t really need that boost, but WOW, what a difference it made!” What? But my main issue with this is something that I’ve complained about before. This is a perfect example of how it’s rarely about the health aspect of life and more about the ‘look perfect’ aspect. Our bodies are not okay the way they are; don’t forget that, women of the world, for society will remind you every chance it gets.

I am absolutley [sic] excited about this product because of the difference it has made in my life, and wanted to share it with your group. It has truly made a difference in my life physically, mentally, and emotionally. I’ve included a few photos for your review. Please contact me if I can tell you more about this amazing garment and the nutritional products Ardyss International offers.

It bothers me greatly that my involvement in something as great as Happy Bodies is used as the reason why this bullshit is being spewed at me. This is not what Happy Bodies is about. “It has truly made a difference in my life physically, mentally, and emotionally.” That just makes me sad. The fact that our bodies and the way society judges and deems them either acceptable or not has such immense power over so many of us emotionally and mentally; it’s got half the world in a fucking choke-hold. And this message just upsets me more. This person treats it like some miracle for women, because we can look better! You know what would be a fucking miracle for women? A cure for breast cancer. Available and affordable birth control and other pregnancy services. Reproductive rights. The right to choose what is and is not right for your own body. Not feeling trapped inside your body because you hate it so much. Not chasing some goddamn ghost of the ideal image.

This is the fucking body I live in.  If you don’t like it, kiss the fuck off.

Also: FUCK THESE AUTOMATICALLY GENERATED LINKS!

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